Therapy for Relationship Issues

Online therapy in Bellevue and throughout Washington

Reconnect with others.
Reconnect with yourself.

Are my relationships healthy?

Maybe you're noticing:

  • You have difficulty trusting others
  • You avoid conflict or feel uncomfortable if someone is upset with or angry at you
  • You’re struggling to communicate your needs, feelings, or thoughts
  • You put others’ needs ahead of your own
  • You feel that others do not reciprocate the care and effort you put into relationships

Understanding relationship challenges: the cycle of people-pleasing and unfulfilling connections

You find yourself constantly trying to make others happy, bending over backward to avoid any sign of disappointment or disapproval. It’s as if your purpose in life is to ensure everyone else’s joy. Trying to juggle everyone else’s needs while neglecting your own leaves you drained and depleted.

Despite your efforts to be accommodating, you often feel a sense of disconnection and inauthenticity in your interactions. It’s difficult to form genuine and meaningful connections because you do not show up as your true self. You’d rather swallow your feelings than risk upsetting someone else. You’d do anything to avoid disagreements or even expressing a different opinion. You say “yes” to things you don’t want to do because the fear of rejection is always lurking in the back of your mind. However, this leaves you feeling overwhelmed and resentful.

You find yourself pushing others away or avoiding closeness to protect yourself from potential harm. You create an invisible barrier around you, preventing others from truly seeing or understanding you. No matter how much love others may offer, you can’t shake the belief that it’s not genuine—they’re just pretending as they couldn’t possibly love the real you.

It’s a constant struggle to silence the critical voice in your head—the one that echoes every negative comment, past mistake, or hurtful experience. This voice whispers that you don’t deserve love or happiness. You wonder if there’s something inherently broken or defective within you.


You feel a sense of clarity and tranquility which replaces the constant tension and uncertainty that used to dominate your interactions with others. Gone are the days of overthinking every word, every gesture, and every action. You no longer dissect conversations for hidden meanings or agonize over whether you said the right thing. Instead, you can engage in conversations freely, listening and responding without the burden of second-guessing yourself or others’ intent.

Conflict resolution has become a constructive process rather than a source of dread. You’ve learned to communicate your feelings and needs effectively, while also being an attentive listener to others’ concerns. The result is healthier, more productive conversations that lead to resolution rather than prolonged tension.

You have a newfound sense of independence within relationships. You no longer rely on others for validation or define your self-worth based on their opinions. You’ve cultivated a strong sense of self and have surrounded yourself with people who appreciate and respect you for who you are.

You’ve stepped into a world where connections with others are enriching rather than draining, and where communication is a source of growth rather than anxiety. It’s a place where you can truly be yourself and engage with others authentically.

Nurturing Stronger Bonds: What it can feel like to invest in healthy relationships

What are relational patterns?

Sometimes we find ourselves caught in dysfunctional patterns that keep repeating, and we have difficulty seeing the solution to these problems. Therapy can be helpful in identifying, better understanding, and changing relational patterns to encourage healthy and fulfilling relationships. Gaining insight and self-awareness through the therapeutic process can support you in clarifying specific needs in your relationships and promoting growth in voicing these needs to others. Healthy relationships can aid in increasing self-confidence, self-worth, and a feeling of belonging. As a result, those who have positive relationships are more likely to feel happy and satisfied with their lives.

Symptoms of unhealthy or toxic relationships

  • You feel not good enough
  • The other person is judgmental, disapproving, critical, or short with you
  • You feel as though you’re walking on eggshells
  • You feel that you can’t trust your thoughts, feelings, or needs and frequently doubt yourself
  • Your thoughts, emotions, and needs are invalidated or dismissed
  • You’re always to blame–the other person does not take accountability or responsibility for their actions
  • You feel responsible for others’ feelings and problems
  • The relationship is not reciprocal–you feel there is no space for you; it’s all about them 
  • You feel taken advantage of, overwhelmed, or emotionally drained
  • You feel disconnected or alone

Is relationship therapy right for me?

Relationships are central to our lives and emotional wellbeing. As human beings, we have an innate desire for connection and closeness. Relationships can add joy, fun, and support to our lives but they can also be a source of confusion, stress, and hurt. Working on your relationships is not exclusive to couples counseling. Individual counseling can help to explore your relational patterns that may be affecting your relationships and provide you with insight and tools to alter your role in relationships. In order to authentically connect with others, we need to first connect fully with ourselves. Focusing on what it is that you can change while in individual therapy (your thoughts, emotions, and behavior) not only leads to positive personal change, but often results in positive responses from those around you, which in turn leads to healthy changes in your relationships.

Therapy for relationship issues can help you:

  • Feel comfortable setting boundaries with others and within yourself
  • Learn effective, healthy ways to communicate so that your emotions and needs are understood and respected
  • Develop conflict resolution skills
  • Gain insight into how family of origin and past relationships influence present relational patterns
  • Feel more comfortable and confident in who you are and in showing your authentic self
  • Develop increased self-understanding

Specialty populations I serve

Young Adults


You care for everyone else. Now it’s time to take care of you.
Here, your needs matter most.

You care for everyone else. Now it’s time to take care of you. Here, your needs
matter most.

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